Who Are We When No Ones In The Room?
As silence settles and the only voice you hear is your own, what thoughts and actions begin to transpire? Are you dancing in your room to music you’d never play in the car with friends? Are you watching a romantic comedy you’d never confess to? Are you inventing the life of your dreams, step by step?
If you answered yes to any of these, then Hi, my name is Rosina and I’m here to tell you, you are not alone. Anything you do behind closed doors should never be something to shy away from or be embarrassed about. We should all strive to be that person we are in that room, 24/7. It’s then we begin attracting the right people into our lives, it’s then all we’ve ever dreamed of begins to fall into place.
This all might sound theoretical but of course, because a theory is only a theory until someone finds it plausible. My favorite example are recording artists. Betty Davis, Andre 3000, Tyler, The Creator, Amy Winehouse, Thundercat, Selena, + so many more. In all cases when these folks listened to themselves and shed all skins, or in some cases stuck to their true skin, they found the most success. When you create and live in the world from a true place, often enough, you’ll attract what’s meant for you. This isn’t to say these folks didn’t have trials across their life, but in their career, artistic expression came from self-expression and was never stifled because their expression was always rooted in truth.
I’m an advocate of keeping some mystery alive, so when you feel the need to reserve some aspects of yourself for yourself, do that. But being truthful in what you feel, say, and do, that’s important. You can find in doing so it’ll phase out people who at this time are not meant for you, as you for them. Or in a complete 360, you will inspire them to rise above, unknowingly giving them permission to be more of who they truly are.
I wonder, if people were more of who they are and less of who they thought they should be, would we have as much pain in this world? Often people act from a place of maintaining the perception of who they are in someone else’s eye. And what’s funny is that that person(s) they do it for, may not even care. Being wronged by another traumatizes a person, and it’s that pain inflicted that then stirs the pot and leads people to re-enact what was done to them, leaving us with the perpetual cycle that is hurt people, hurting people.
I recently been taught it is less about un-learning societal teachings and more about re-learning what we’ve already known. Following the intuition we never doubted as children, unrestrained by reservations, or the status quo, we act from an honest and caring place. Gentle in our candor but never holding back. Our being silent to protect one’s feelings does nothing and serves no one. If a revolution of spirit is what we desire, only revelational action will get us there.
6 months ago, I made a vow to myself, from here on out I will take those necessary steps to be who I am when no one’s in the room. In being our TRUE selves, possibilities become limitless, for better or worse, I choose to believe for the better. In the end, we have our stories, the moments we remember forever, and the love we created in our lives. It’d be a shame for it all to be tainted because we learned the lesson too late, that being yourself is all it takes. There are a lot of obstacles we will face in life, don’t make being yourself one of them, choose you.
If you have a pen and paper, make your vow, pray on it, bless it, whatever works for you, and then let it reign true.
